Email from DH:
From: DH
Date: Tuesday, June 3, 2014 at 2:45 AM
To: MJ
Subject: Re: Impact Navy
No worries…. This whole selection process has been a mess and has caused so much drama and tarnished many friendships. Here is the scoop, after Thursday's tryouts BJ, Jami, Steve and I discussed who we liked. Our entire team was staying together except for Nicole who is getting dropped down (4 Spots) to the U9 Grey team. The top 4 girls that we liked were already selected to go to CU or somewhere else by the time Jami offered them a spot.The Grey team is moving to 8v8 and they are taking Sophia, which means I am left with the table scraps in order to roster a team of (9).
The Wohl's & the Durham's of course have been so conniving and manipulative with Monica and I that it has truly ruined our friendship.
I can fill you in on all the details later.
Dominic Hassert
June 3rd 6:12 AM
M.J. You up?
D.H. Yes
M.J. Want to talk?
D.H. Calling you now
M.J. K
A forty seven minute phone conversation ensued in which I was informed about the terrible process of moving players, and that all Jami and BJ care about are doing the best for their Gray and Blue teams. How the Wohl's had betrayed their friendship by not sharing with Monica (who was at their pool all day) about Sophie being offered a spot on Gray. And how Jim Wohl told Dominic that Alisha doesn't like him as a coach, he is way to easy on Ava and to hard on Maggie. That she was going to form her own team with another parent so Impact would have 6 U10 teams. He was frustrated nobody from Yellow was given a chance to move up, as that is how it should be. He shared that Jami had sent an email directly to CJ Wohl to play on a small sand volleyball team, and his frustration that CJ copied him and Monica on the response, expecting them to help with transportation. He advised he was sick to death of how everybody acted.
June 3rd 2:57 PM
D.H. Prost!
M.J. To you as well
D.H. Well deserved my friend!
M.J. To you also
M.J. Dom we will stick with you if you stay in the group. Not going to let bitter people ruin a good team.
June 3rd, 5:02 PM
M.J. V wants to reach out to Monica if that is okay?
D.H. Absolutely... Let me know what you decide to do. You need to do what's best for Ella. Don't let others cloud your judgement like it has done for me.
June 3rd, 5:17 PM
M.J. If you remain we will stay with you. Despite what appears to be a breakdown in mission from our club, will not dissuade me from trying to make our team achieve the mission. Now if you pull the plug let me know and we will enroll in Say! :)
M.J. By the way, V posted on Facebook we would be going to CSA tryouts and received this from Alisha Mannino Durham Ummmm, no!!!!! Maggie would be heartbroken (and so would I, I kinda like you guys bunches) Please don't go!!!!
D.H. SAY what???? Did you talk to Jami?
M.J. A joke on say. I haven't talked to Jami was reaching out to se close allies in the impact camp. I wanted to ensure my approach would not blow up. I am going to send a note tonight to BJ and Jami.
M.J. How many great beers have you had?
D.H. I guess the writing is on "Facebook" CJ will not be coming to IMPACT.
You lost me with that chief
D.H. Oh.... My bad I thought V meant V Debra.
M.J. Maybe the martini and watching Gold Finger but who is v Debra?
P
D.H. Im laughing and I accidentally typed P
D.H. You crack me up
D.H. Too many beers. I reach my goal though,I had at least 1 beer from all 7 breweries in Munich.
M.J. It's like the climber from Price is Right. But instead of money it is beer!
D.H. Vee Debra....aka V Debra is the lady Alisha is friends with and CJ her daughter is who Jami asked to play on our team, in which they said any IMPACT team but Dominic's
M.J. Ah word up
June 4th, 6:54 AM
M.J. Hey, it might be helpful to get a communication out regarding team status. Apparently rumors continue to swirl. The latest is you aren't coaching, which if true I respect, but would prefer to be done with the speculation.
D.H. <attempted deletion> A lot of things have happened and most likely I will not be coaching the Navy Team. Please do not share this with anyone as of yet because nothing is set in stone. Monica & I are going to take our own advice and do what is best for Ava.
M.J. Understood Dom, I appreciate the candor, and no matter what happens we need to stay connected.
D.H. <attempted deletion> I thought by keeping the team together was the best thing that is why I fought so hard. The truth is Sophia, Ava and Ella are best friends and that is the only reason I came to IMPACT. If one left then it would crush the other 2.
D.H. You may or may not have known this but I refused to have Ava & Ella H. Move up to the grey team a few weeks ago when BJ was enquiring about it because I did not want to leave Sophia or any of the other girls behind.
M.J. I didn't, very confusing.
D.H. <attempted deletion> BJ moving to the 8v8 was a surprise to me so last night we talked and he asked again about Ava, Sophia & Ella moving up so he can continue to move on to 8v8.
M.J. Good for them!
D.H. <attempted deletion> As you know I have a big heart for all the Navy girls but like you said yesterday people are going to get hurt and they are difficult decisions but Monica and I agree that we need to think about what Ava wants. I'm not a selfish person and I didn't want this to be a selfish decision but unfortunately with all the politics and talk going on I need to let Ava decide just like I did last spring and go with it.
D.H. <attempted deletion> I hope you can understand and I hope this decision doesn't jeopardize any friendships we have established within Impact and the Navy team.
M.J. Dom, I don't blame you at all for the decision. I guess I am just disappointed in the club and have to determine how to explain to a 9 year old who I have told time and time again to let her game show where she belongs. Forgive me, but at this point I am going to go radio silent for a bit. Safe travels
Email from Jami and is out of order, read from the bottom up
| From: Impact GFC <soccer@impactgfc.com> |
| Date: Wednesday, June 4, 2014 at 3:01 PM |
| To: Marc James <mnjames@live.com> |
| Subject: RE: Please read this email |
| Okay, I'm soooo confused. I knew none of this. I didn't call you on damage control, I called to offer Ella a spot on the Gray. I then called BJ to find out what was going on. I do know that I asked the blue and gray to play volleyball as well as some of the other players, like Ella James and Sophia Kaps since they were doing after school volleyball. I could only take 8 players for volleyball so I just started with the first two teams. I asked Lauren Macnamee for the blue which left BJ an open spot (he asked Sophie). After much discussion with BJ, we talked about him going 8v8 and bringing up those 4 players. The only person I have talked to is BJ since Dominic is in Germany. I told BJ we need to find a coach for Navy so Ava H. and Ella James could move up and we could move forward with this. |
| As I said, I really have no idea what the issues are just because I guess I'm out of the loop. |
| From: Marc James [mailto:mnjames@live.com] |
| Sent: Wednesday, June 04, 2014 2:28 PM |
| To: Impact GFC; Steven P. Arengo |
| Subject: Re: Please read this email |
| I appreciate the email, and have to be honest, my “angry dad” is in full force. I had to have a conversation with my daughter today to explain why other players were moving up and she was not. I would have felt better telling her Santa Clause didn’t exist. No disrespect is intended, but, I feel your outreach is a damage control attempt. This was from Dominic Monday evening (see attached): |
| "No worries…. This whole selection process has been a mess and has caused so much drama and tarnished many friendships. Here is the scoop, after Thursday's tryouts BJ, Jami, Steve and I discussed who we liked. Our entire team was staying together except for Nicole who is getting dropped down (4 Spots) to the U9 Grey team. The top 4 girls that we liked were already selected to go to CU or somewhere else by the time Jami offered them a spot.The Grey team is moving to 8v8 and they are taking Sophia, which means I am left with the table scraps in order to roster a team of (9). |
| The Wohl's & the Durham's of course have been so conniving and manipulative with Monica and I that it has truly ruined our friendship." |
| Tuesday Morning, on the phone, Dominic explained how upset he was that BJ moved Sophie up to the team. He also shared that you reached out to C.J. to have Sophie join a sand volleyball team. To which Dominic shared he was frustrated with the Wohls that they were now looking for transportation to this event. He advised that James Wohl shared information about how terribly Alisha “spoke of Dominic and his inappropiate treatment of Maggie and his favoritism of Ava. |
| Over late last night and this morning I received the following: |
| Marc James: Dom we will stick with you if you stay in the group. Not going to let bitter people ruin a good team. |
| V wants to reach out to Monica if that is okay? |
| Dominic Hassert: Absolutely... Let me know what you decide to do. You need to do what's best for Ella. Don't let others cloud your judgement like it has done for me. |
| Marc James: If you remain we will stay with you. Despite what appears to be a breakdown in mission from our club, will not dissuade me from trying to make our team achieve the mission. Now if you pull the plug let me know and we will enroll in Say! :) |
| Marc James: By the way, V posted on Facebook we would be going to CSA tryouts and received this from Alisha Mannino Durham Ummmm, no!!!!! Maggie would be heartbroken (and so would I, I kinda like you guys bunches) Please don't go!!!! |
| Dominic Hassert: SAY what???? Did you talk to Jami? |
| Marc James: A joke on say. I haven't talked to Jami was reaching out to se close allies in the impact camp. I wanted to ensure my approach would not blow up. I am going to send a note tonight to BJ and Jami. |
| Marc James: How many great beers have you had? |
| Dominic Hassert: I guess the writing is on "Facebook" CJ will not be coming to IMPACT. |
| Marc James: You lost me with that chief |
| Dominic Hassert: Oh.... My bad I thought V meant V Debra. |
| Marc James: Maybe the martini and watching Gold Finger but who is v Debra? |
| Dominic Hassert: Im laughing and I accidentally typed P |
| Dominic Hassert: You crack me up |
| Dominic Hassert: Too many beers. I reach my goal though,I had at least 1 beer from all 7 breweries in Munich. |
| Marc James: It's like the climber from Price is Right. But instead of money it is beer! |
| Dominic Hassert: Vee Debra....aka V Debra is the lady Alisha is friends with and CJ her daughter is who Jami asked to play on our team, in which they said any IMPACT team but Dominic's |
| Hey, it might be helpful to get a communication out regarding team status. Apparently rumors continue to swirl. The latest is you aren't coaching, which if true I respect, but would prefer to be done with the speculation. |
| Dominic Hassert: A lot of things have happened and most likely I will not be coaching the Navy Team. Please do not share this with anyone as of yet because nothing is set in stone. |
| Dominic Hassert: Monica & I are going to take our own advice and do what is best for Ava. |
| Marc James: Understood Dom, I appreciate the candor, and no matter what happens we need to stay connected. |
| Dominic Hassert: I thought by keeping the team together was the best thing that is why I fought so hard. The truth is Sophia, Ava and Ella are best friends and that is the only reason I came to IMPACT. If one left then it would crush the other 2. You may or may not have known this but I refused to have Ava & Ella H. Move up to the grey team a few weeks ago when BJ was enquiring about it because I did not want to leave Sophia or any of the other girls behind. |
| Marc James: I didn't, very confusing. |
| Dominic Hassert: BJ moving to the 8v8 was a surprise to me so last night we talked and he asked again about Ava, Sophia & Ella moving up so he can continue to move on to 8v8. |
| Marc James: Good for them! |
| Dominic Hassert: As you know I have a big heart for all the Navy girls but like you said yesterday people are going to get hurt and they are difficult decisions but Monica and I agree that we need to think about what Ava wants. I'm not a selfish person and I didn't want this to be a selfish decision but unfortunately with all the politics and talk going on I need to let Ava decide just like I did last spring and go with it. |
| Dominic Hassert: I hope you can understand and I hope this decision doesn't jeopardize any friendships we have established within Impact and the Navy team. |
| Marc James: Dom, I don't blame you at all for the decision. I guess I am just disappointed in the club and have to determine how to explain to a 9 year old who I have told time and time again to let her game show where she belongs. Forgive me, but at this point I am going to go radio silent for a bit. Safe travels |
| I hope this illustrates my frutstaion and disenchantment with Impacts mission. I am also unwilling to let Ella be “that girl”. We will move on so other girls can participate. |
| Again, but here is the follow up to the message above, you must read from top to bottom. |
| From: Impact GFC <soccer@impactgfc.com> |
| Date: Wednesday, June 4, 2014 at 12:59 PM |
| To: Marc James <mnjames@live.com> |
| Subject: Please read this email |
| After talking with BJ, I'm not really sure what Dominic told you but as of yesterday, BJ had decided to go 8v8. His decision was to bring up Ella H., Ava H., Sophie and your Ella. We were waiting on finding a replacement for you and Dominic before making the decision final. We did find the replacement late last night and was going to start making phone calls today. As of now, we would like to invite Ella up to the Gray team. Let me know if she accepts. |
Follow up email chain - read from the bottom up
From: Jami Eversole <Jami@kamgan.com>
Date: Wednesday, June 4, 2014 at 5:06 PM
To: Marc James <mnjames@live.com>
Subject: Re: Please read this email
Have you talked with BJ? Because as of today, he had not invited Ella H. and Ava H. (at least that's what I was told). There was only talk but nothing official. So someone is not speaking the truth. I will get to the bottom of this when Dominic returns and will not tolerate whatever went on. I'm hoping there's a misunderstanding somewhere.
Ella James did great at try-outs and we did recognize that. She has come a long way and works really hard. It just took few days and many long hours to sort things out.
Ryann would still like for her to play volleyball. Let me know.
Jami
From: Marc James [mailto:mnjames@live.com]
Sent: Wednesday, June 04, 2014 4:07 PM
To: Jami Eversole
Subject: SPAM-LOW: Re: Please read this email
Hey thanks again (sarcasm) I am dealing with s sobbing 9 year old who doesn’t understand why, when she did her best and outperformed she was left behind. Your offer to join Gray is disingenuous. I am sure it translates, but I am protective of my daughter as I am certain you are, the rage I feel toward this group is indescribable. My wife would scold me for this message, but you need to know how truly disappointed I am.
I know you and BJ talk, and I have strong belief in how these decisions were made. I pray to god you don’t have to explain to Ryan any time soon how fucked up adults are. Enjoy Dom and the Wohls.
M
From: Marc James <mnjames@live.com>
Date: Wednesday, June 4, 2014 at 3:35 PM
To: Impact GFC <soccer@impactgfc.com>
Cc: charles webb <wintonwoodspe@hotmail.com>, "Steven P. Arengo" <sarengo@interdependentadvisors.com>, Hentz <thehentzes@cinci.rr.com>, Jennifer Kapszukiewicz <jjryall@hotmail.com>, Vanessa James <vanessa@aidanjames.org>
Subject: Re: Please read this email
Jami,
Despite my wife’s strong objections, I have to ask you to just please stop.
The bottom line is either you are disconnected from the organizational decision making or you are fibbing to me. I do not understand how can be so out of the loop on how to build the Gray team!! Dominic expressed frustration with Sophie moving up and his desire to keep the team together. (see below) I also am confused on how you do not understand BJ offered roles to Ava and Ella H (really?) and then after the fact offers a role to Sophie (again really) but the concedes that Sophie, Ava and Ella H should move up (Really Really) See attached e-meal. Either BJ or Dominic is not sharing the truth.
No matter which is true, I can’t have our daughter part of a club where poor performance is rewarded. I beg you do not share these issues with the children.
This will be my last message.
M
June 4th, 4:10 PM
M.J. By the way, fuck all of you!
D.H. What is this all about ?What's going on? Do you want to talk?
M.J.I have no desire to talk, given everything my daughter is sobbing not understanding why.
M.J. This is a universal message to you and the entire Navy team. We embraced you like family and you fucked us. Do not communicate to us again.
D.H. <attempted deletion> Don't get pissed at me I tried to do what was right for my daughter and the team. Unfortunately it was a fight I was not going to win. I'm truly sorry this has happened to everyone on our team. It's not an easy decision.
M.J. What ever dom, moving the trifecta up seems just perfect. Enjoy
D.H. <attempted deletion> Believe what you want everyone else seems to talk behind my back and yet everyone has secrets. If the role was reversed you would have jumped in a heartbeat.
M.J. Dom, I have no desire to talk behind your back. Here is what I said to Jami, and I will say to you. The organization chose to move players based off politics. [you threw a tantrum about the three amigos staying together]. This isn't what I signed up for, this isn't what I believe in, and fuck you all who made me explain to my daughter why she didn't move up, because of politics and fucked up adults. I can't prove anything, but I do feel as if my daughter got caught up in the Navy team politics. What ever, and I don't care. I will give you Sophie, but Impact promoted 2 girls above my Ella who should have fallen behind her. What ever the reason, you can go hard on Ava and tell her, Ella H and Sophie why substandard performers get moved up. So that is why I say fuck all of you!
M.J. Dom, you are really good at deleting things. Keep in mind on my iPhone they remain. Despite your attempts to delete parts of our conversations, I have them. Took me a minute to figure them out, but I can screen shot them. You will soon be able to see every Navy communication and audio transcript on www.dominichassert.com.
Again, fuck you for hurting my daughter.
From Alisha Durham:
Just know, Please, most of what has been said about me over the last 2 months has been lies. Heck, I didn't even know I was in the wrong or upsetting people, not intentional at all. So many lies even over the past 3 days. These are kids that are being hurt, kids feelings and to me that is not acceptable. Please know that my daughter was in tears at the thought of Ella not playing with her anymore. I did not tell her I knew anything for a fact, just that she was trying out at other clubs and that they would be crazy not to take her. Tears, lots of them. Now tears by me, just know I think she is amazing, I questioned Jami personally about her and why? Impact had so many girls tryout that they wanted to add another team. They offered that team to me (I really know the true reason but I am not going to assume and hurt people) but I said no, Maggie's loved playing with your Ella, Abby, Sophie, Ella. At 9, I thought that was most important so I told Jami no, for the best interest on the team (so I thought) Now they have changed it all around again, offered me the Navy team. I was going to do it since I thought the root of the evil was gone and the love of what it should be about was still in the core. I have asked Marc to call me, Please, it would make me feel so much better to talk to him or you! Please!